‘You need to change your attitude son’
‘Things are going to change around here from now on’
‘You’ve changed! . . . We used to get on so much better when we first met’
Now think about the whole experience at the time. Was it a positive experience? How did it make you feel? Would you rather avoid situations that involve the word change?
As you can see from the examples above change frequently has an emotional charge from your past and quite often these are not pleasant emotions. People use the word ‘change’ to force a reaction from someone but unfortunately without any guidance or preferred outcome. When emotions are running high we engage our mouths before our brains and can sometimes live to regret it.
When you have been told to change in the past have you often been left in limbo or feeling inadequate?